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THE ASSERTIVE WOMAN
Do you want to restore balance in your life?
Say no and draw the line with confidence? Make the right choices? Face up to
challenges and changes with courage?
With the new edition of THE ASSERTIVE WOMAN, now you can. This classic
bestseller, revised and updated, is an original and lively self-help
resource, packed with tested exercises, step-by-step guides, and solid
advice on how to express yourself with co-workers, authority figures,
lovers, family, and friends.
THE ASSERTIVE WOMAN debunks the tired old myths and stereotypes of women
bosses, stay-at-home moms, "bully broads," and superwomen, and presents a
refreshing, positive alternative.
From breaking out of the Compassion Trap and countering manipulation, to
nurturing a hardy spirit and reaching out to friends and lovers, THE
ASSERTIVE WOMAN delivers real answers and steadfast support to real women
Assertive Discipline for Parents: A Proven, Step-by-Step Approach to
Solving Everyday Behavior Problems
I have read several "discipline"
books with many more on my nightstand. This is by far one of the best books
for all ages, from toddlers to teens. The book is easy to read (1-2 hours at
the most), gives great examples and has already inspired me to take charge
of my parenting with my almost 4 yr old twin boys. I can certainly see it's
effectiveness into the teen years.
The Canter's give you an overview of "being assertive" and ineffective
communication. Then they keep it simple by giving you in one short chapter
the tools most parents will need to get results - speak assertively, use
nonverbal cues, utilize the broken record technique for arguers, and praise
when behavior is appropriate. The next couple chapters suggest how to back
up your words with actions and lay down the law, including some examples of
"extreme" measures people have taken. Each chapter supplies examples and a
one page summary at the end.
The rest of the book gives great ideas for enforcing positive behavior,
working with 2 or more children, changing behavior at school, and working
with spouses and ex-spouses. There are examples situations for working
parents, babysitters, and single parents. There is a question and answer
section of the most "what if?" and "but.." questions, a long
problem/consequence example chapter and worksheets for disciplinary plans in
I highly recommend this book as one of the first to read. I really like the
way they give suggestions, but don't treat them as the only way to do
things. The authors acknowledge the fact that some children definitely need
professional help and that the professional advice comes first. And the fact
that positive reinforcement is highly emphasized makes it a well rounded,
easy to implement discipline strategy.
Your Perfect Right: A Guide to Assertive Living
With over 1.25 million sold, this is the assertiveness book most often
recommended by psychologists -- fifth-most-recommended among ALL self-help
books -- according to a national survey.
This manual is packed with step-by-step procedures, detailed examples,
Topics: How Assertive Are You Now?; "Can You Give Me an Example?"; It's
Not What You Say, It's How You Say It!; Anxiety; Anger; Put Downs;
Assertiveness Builds Equal Relationships; Intimacy and Sexuality;
Assertiveness Works at Work, Too; Handling Difficult People; Deciding When
To Be Assertive; Helping Others Deal With the New Assertive You. The seventh
edition also contains material on living in a multicultural society, making
the decision to express yourself, new recommendations on anger expression
and anxiety treatment.
The New Assertive Woman
As a Psychologist, over the years, I have
strongly recommended the reading of the original edition of this book,
which has helped people (yes, men as well as women) to improve their lives
and relationships by teaching them how to speak up in a strong, positive,
effective way. Looking to purchase another out-of-print copy, I was very
excited to see that a new edition has finally come out! I intend to buy
several, and give them to people I care about
Facing the Schoolyard Bully: How to Raise and Assertive Child in an
What causes some children to become bullies? Why
are certain children targeted for abuse? When and how should parents
intervene? What should you do if your child is a bully? What is the
school's responsibility? Is there anything you can do to help your child
While as many as one-half of children today experience pain at the hands
of bullies, parents may still believe that schoolyard bullying is simply
a rite of passage, something that must be endured and then becomes a
distant memory. But being the victim of a bully can have long-lasting
Today's headlines are filled with stories of troubled sometimes
murderous youth in our schools and communities. Far less publicized are
the innumerable bullying attacks made by child against child. By
overlooking and downplaying bullying, no matter how trivial it may
appear, parents and teachers dangerously underrate the importance of
controlling aggressive behavior in the bully before it leads to a more
serious offense. There are important signs that the victim is under a
real threat that has life-long consequences.
Expanding on her own and others' memories of schoolyard bullying, Kim
Zarzour thoroughly examines the dynamics of bullying. In a friendly,
parent-to-parent style she offers helpful suggestions on how to
recognize bullying, stop the cycle of bullying, prevent your child from
becoming either a bully or a victim, and how to teach a child coping
skills for this kind of aggressive behavior
Creative Aggression: The Art of Assertive Living
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